Introductions are perhaps one of the most difficult, time-consuming, nerve-racking ordeals that a Tibetan refugee has to go through.
I mean, how do you explain to free citizens of free nations, the concept of having to escape one’s homes to preserve our culture, nurture our traditions, save our identities, practice our beliefs, and, mostly, to have the freedom to believe, to speak, and to dissent.
While two generations of Tibetan exiles have been able to achieve this feat, the challenges for today’s generation of Tibetan exiles have increased manifold. With China’s growing prominence as a global superpower, mainly owing to its financial clout, many nations and their leaders have forgotten, or are turning a blind eye to, the Tibetan issue.
“Where are you from?”
The Tibetan replies: “From here.” (Assuming we’re referring to places in India, “here” would be the Tibetan refugee settlements in north and south India where most Tibetans are based)
Stranger exclaims: “From here? You don’t look local at all? Your family moved here?”
Tibetan responds somewhat innocently: “Yes. Our parents moved here from Tibet many years ago.”
“Right, right. Tibet is in India, right?”
“Wrong. It’s a separate country by itself, towards North India.” — replies a rather patient, but slightly shocked, Tibetan
“Oh! You mean you’re from North East India?” — asks a now excited stranger who feels he/she has just had an a-ha moment
“No. We’re Tibetans. From Tibet. It’s a separate country altogether. Our parents followed the Dalai Lama into exile after Tibet was occupied by the Chinese.” — says the Tibetan in response, all the time marveling at the stranger’s general knowledge (or the lack, thereof)
“Right, right. You’re all the Dalai Lama’s people?”
“Yes, you are absolutely right” — the Tibetan heaves a sigh of relief. All is well with the world again
“Hmm. Interesting. I would really like to visit your place. So what did your parents do for a living?”
“Farming and seasonal sweater selling business.”
“Wow. You have a farmhouse?”
“No, it’s not as grand as it sounds. The size of the land for cultivation per family is based on the number of family members at the time the land was distributed by the state governments of the various settlements that Tibetans reside in. For example, a three-member family should have about two to three acres.”
“Oh, okay. So, what do you grow there?”
“Nice. By the way, do you know how to make momos?”
“I do indeed.”
“Will you treat me to momos if I visit your place? I had them in Nepal last year, but I can never seem to find a good place that sells momos here in the city.”
“I’d be happy to.”
“I want to learn how to make momos as well. Will you teach me one of these days?”
“Sure. It’s fairly simple once you get the hang of it but you still need a different utensil to make momos.”
“Where can I get that?”
“I’m not sure where in the city but I do know that most of the shops in the Tibetan settlements sell them.”
“Then I definitely must go to these places. Anyway, I’ve noticed this for a while among people who look like you and have been meaning to ask — what is this bead-like thing you wear on your wrist?”
“These are prayer beads.”
“Oh, okay. What do you call them?”
“Is it a fashion statement? Most people who look like you have this.”
“No, it’s not a fashion statement. We wear these because we use it to say our prayers and chant mantras”
“My God, this is so interesting. By the way, what did you say your name was again?”
“How come everyone seems to have the same name?